And you did it all by yourself…..
The end to the sentence that all children love to hear.
Good work little johnny, you took your first steps…..and you did it all by yourself.
Well done, you climbed the stairs for the first time…..and you did it all by yourself.
You tied your shoelaces…..and you did it all by yourself.
The list goes on.
We are rewarded for our achievements, fantastic. The icing on the cake, you did it all by yourself.
The truth of the matter is that you didn’t.
Someone taught you to tie your shoelaces. Someone helped you to take those first steps supported so you didn’t hurt yourself.
It was the culmination of a process of natural progression of course, along with guided learning.
The issue is that it’s great when we’re kids, but maybe not so great as an adult.
Many of us hold on to the idea that ‘doing it by yourself’ is preferential, that we should be looking to achieve things on our own.
“You got promoted…..well done you did it all by yourself”
You didn’t need any help to get there.
Is this what you really want to hear?
I challenge you to reconsider.
It doesn’t matter how it gets done, just the fact it gets done.
What we need to do is reframe ‘doing it by yourself’ to ‘just getting it done’.
Consider this. Would you rather ‘do it by yourself’ and take years, or do it with other people’s help and take months?
That’s the decision you need to make.
I would say that all the truly successful people I know, and YOU know, have mentors. People who helped them and guided them through their adult life, not just childhood.
People who got them from A to B faster.
Dan John calls it course correction.
You’ve plotted the course, but it’s easy to lose track, to go off in the wrong direction.
You need someone to course correct.
It’s a skill to work with others. It requires patience. The ability to listen and consider. Lead and manage. It requires you to be BETTER.
To engage people.
To get things moving.
To make something happen.
How can you make it on your own?
Maybe you need to get better. To accept you don’t have it all? Accept that others do add value.
I would say that when you’re ready to do this, things might just accelerate forwards for you.
How about the following as a closing statement:
“Well done, you did it”.
Or maybe even “well done, we did it together”.
Thanks again for reading.
PS Big Mention to my coaching team here. All of the guys add serious value to my team and me. So thanks to the current group Yousef, Sam, Blaine, Josh, Fish, Dane, Adam, Dan and more. Along with my group of mentorship students who I work closely with also. Adam, Cooky, Darren, Johnny, Sam, Dean, Chris, Jon, Scott, Gavin, Jake.